Am white woman dating black man dating a recon marine
I never sat down and wrote out a pros and cons list.
Though if I did, the fact that my wife has never seen an episode of “Martin” would be in the con category.
Whenever I’m standing on a subway platform, I play this game: I hover near a person I think is cute and try to slowly make my way over to him so we get in the same car. Like most of the girls in my class, I wanted attention from the boys.
When we do, I look his way every so often to see if he’s staring back, to see if we’ve got what my best friend and I call “the affinity,” a mutual acknowledgement that we one another. But while they chased after blondes and brunettes, I was ignored.
It’s a pretty good way to pass the time from Brooklyn to midtown. I spent my childhood surrounded by black and brown kids, but when I got to high school, suddenly everyone around me was white.
And on those rare occasions a white boy kissed me in the copy-machine room at our high school, or when a white boy told me over the phone he had a crush on me, the acknowledgement made me feel chosen. The white boys I grew up with were cool: They rode their skateboards on private property. White men have preoccupied me my whole life, from the schoolyard to the subway, but these days I’m seeing them differently.
Whenever I post pictures of my family on social media, the responses are always fun. I don’t think anyone should be shocked or disappointed by interracial marriages, but I still wanted to talk about why I married outside my “race.
” But one of the other common responses is, “Is your wife white? This is irrelevant to some, but shocking or even disappointing to others.
Some would never consider marrying someone who wasn’t the same ethnicity as them, so let me tell you why I did.
Expectations To be honest, I always expected to marry a black woman.
My first album had just come out, so I had plenty of other things to focus on.
But as I met people at the school, a sophomore named Jessica really caught my attention and we became friends.